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Thursday, January 19, 2012

Definition: Self-Esteem

Real self-esteem is taking responsibility for all thoughts, emotions and actions.  True, it is critical to forgive oneself for being Human, as we will all make mistakes, and also to feel good about and stick up for oneself; but if self-esteem means someone is ‘kicking ass and taking names,’ it also means they own the pink-slip to someone else’s bruised ass.  Be aware of the people that may be affected during displays of personal attitudes and insecurities.  People often justify their mistreatment of others by explaining life circumstances that happened to them and were beyond their control.  This is the number one most toxic thought Humans cling to; they say “I’m fucked up because this happened to me,” or “so-and-so made me feel that way.” Any thought of that nature is someone’s attempt to blame others for the condition of their life, which makes them feel powerless over their own life.  It follows that the powerless person compensates by pissing all over other people; and so the cycle continues.  Step one is owning the fact that nothing has ever happened to us; we all choose how to play the cards we're dealt in this game of life. Everything that has occurred in our lives up until now is fact, unchangeable, denying it pointless; so let's own how we treat others and the extent to which we allow others to affect our lives.

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